Do not say to the parents - Call me if you need anything. They are in too much pain. You call them weekly. Take them out to lunch. Don't give up on them even if they try to push you away. They need you!
Do not say to the grieving parents - "At least you didn't get to know the baby" - That baby was carried inside its mother’s body . How can any relationship be any stronger or intimate?
Do not say to the grieving parents - "You are young you can have other children." This child was a person. It cannot be replaced. You would not tell a grieving child "Don't worry your mom is young she'll marry you a new dad."
Do not say to the grieving parents - "I know how you feel" - If you have never lost a child, you do not know how they feel. Even if you have experienced loss such as a husband, mother or father, child loss is not the same. It is natural for our spouses and parents to not live past us, our children are supposed to live past us.
Do not say to the parents - "At least you have your other child/children." Again they are very grateful for their other child/children, but they wanted to keep all their children. Other people get too.
Do not say to the parents - I tie up the pull cords on my window coverings. Many children have strangled to death with the pull cords tied up high.
Do not act as if their child never lived. - She/he did and they loved, and still love them with all their heart and soul.
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Do not say to the grieving parents - "You should be over it by now" - It doesn't matter how long it's been. You do not ever get over it.
Do not ignore them. - They need you more now than they ever have.
Do not say to the grieving parents - Don't worry. You'll see him again. They are not ready for this so early in grief. They have to accept that their child is gone before they can think about seeing them again.
Do not say to the grieving parents - He is in a better place. This does not help in the early stages of grief. Acceptance and hope is the last stage in grief.
Do not say to the grieving parents - Be thankful he died at an early age. He doesn't have to experience pain and heartache on this earth. This is no way compares to having your child alive and living and feeling pain and heartache. They could have had a wonderful life.
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"... it is not the will of your Father which is in Heaven, that one of these little ones should perish."
